In Islam, worshipping Allah comes with being dutiful to the parents. Allah said in Holy Quran:
”And your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him. And that you be dutiful to your parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of disrespect, nor shout at them but address them in terms of honour”
”وَقَضَىٰ رَبُّكَ أَلَّا تَعۡبُدُوٓاْ إِلَّآ إِيَّاهُ وَبِٱلۡوَٰلِدَيۡنِ إِحۡسَٰنًاۚ إِمَّا يَبۡلُغَنَّ عِندَكَ ٱلۡكِبَرَ أَحَدُهُمَآ أَوۡ كِلَاهُمَا فَلَا تَقُل لَّهُمَآ أُفّٖ وَلَا تَنۡهَرۡهُمَا وَقُل لَّهُمَا قَوۡلٗا كَرِيمٗا”
So, you are not worshipping Allah in the most correct way if you are disobeying your parents. Do not wait for Allah’s Forgiveness and Mercy if you yell at your parents! Any Muslim should honor his/her parents, be polite to them, and be good to them in both word and deed. We can provide you with some examples of how to be polite and righteous to your parents. If you have some questions on when not to obey your parents, this article will answer your questions.
Some might wonder specifically in what way anyone can be dutiful to the parents. Here are some examples, When you start earning money and becoming more financially stable, you need to remember to whom the thanks should be given. It was your father and mother who raised you and supported you to the end. You can give them gifts, seek and buy what they need and what they might feel embarrassed to ask for. When your parents get old, they will need medical care, you can accompany them to the doctors. If you are married with kids, your kids must visit their grandparents. Your kids should watch you acting dutiful to your parents and in return they will be dutiful to them and to you when you are old. If they ask for a glass of water, it should be you who bring them a glass of water. Allah said to you,
”And lower unto them the wing of submission and humility through mercy, and say: “My Lord! Bestow on them Your Mercy as they did bring me up when I was small”
وَٱخۡفِضۡ لَهُمَا جَنَاحَ ٱلذُّلِّ مِنَ ٱلرَّحۡمَةِ وَقُل رَّبِّ ٱرۡحَمۡهُمَا كَمَا رَبَّيَانِي صَغِيرٗا
In the twentieth century, life is full with complications and needs. Allah knows how life will change, Allah set a standard of the limits of the obedience to the parents. The Prophet, peace and blessings be upon him, said:
لَا طَاعَةَ فِي مَعْصِيَةٍ إِنَّمَا الطَّاعَةُ فِي الْمَعْرُوفِ
There is no obedience to anyone if it is disobedience to Allah. Verily, obedience is only in good conduct.
Upon this prophetic Hadith, the conduct of obeying parents is limited when it involves sinning against Allah or His creations. No doubt the parental relationships is very unique and special, but it can not be compared to the bond between the believer and Allah. If your parents are against an obligatory Islamic act that they think it is not fashionable enough, or they are not knowledgeable enough to the fact that this act is obligatory, you must not obey them. Simultaneously, you must be compassionate and gentle to your parents when you decide to oppose them and go against their desires. You should be grateful to them and treat them with good manners.
Remember to send your Duas and supplications to your parents, to ask Allah to grant them safety and well health. May our Lord! Forgive us, our parents, and the believers on the Day when the judgment will come to pass. My our Lord, inspire us to (always) be thankful for the blessings You have granted us and our parents, and to do good deeds that please You; admit us by Your grace into the ranks of Your righteous servants. May we all be dutiful to our parents.
